Why Your Brain Resists the New You

November 13, 2025

-The truth about identity, neural pruning, and why letting go feels like loss

You ever try to change…and suddenly everything in you pushes back?

Like you say:

“I’m done with sugar.”

…and your brain whispers,

“Yeah, but what about just this one time?”

Or you commit to:

“No more skipping workouts.”

…and suddenly your bed becomes extra cozy, and you “accidentally” scroll for an hour?

That resistance isn’t random.
It’s not laziness.
It’s biology.

Your Brain is a Creature of Habit (Literally)

Neuroscience calls it neural pruning.

Basically, your brain trims away the habits, thoughts, and identities you stop feeding—and strengthens the ones you repeat.

The kicker?
Your brain doesn’t care whether a habit is good or bad.
It only cares if it’s familiar.

And familiar = safe.

Even if the old version of you was stressed, sluggish, or self-sabotaging—your brain will try to keep you in that cycle because it knows how to survive there.

Identity is the Real Battle

You’re not just trying to eat healthier or move more.

You’re trying to become a version of yourself that you’ve never fully met before.

That takes rewiring.

And rewiring means letting go of identities tied to:

• • Struggle (“I’ve always had to fight for everything.”)

  • Sacrifice (“Nothing comes easy for me.”)

  • Self-blame (“I always mess up eventually.”)

Even though those identities hurt…they’ve also helped you survive.

So when you try to become the YOU that chooses ease, nourishment, and wholeness—your brain sees that as a threat to the known story.

Here’s the Shift:

You’re not resisting change.
You’re grieving your old identity.

And grief requires grace.

Not guilt.

Not pressure.

Just breath and presence.

This Week’s Reflection:

      1. What part of your old identity feels the hardest to let go of?

      2. What fear is underneath that attachment?

      3. What version of YOU is trying to emerge right now?

Journal it. Say it out loud. Or share it with someone who’s growing too.

You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.

Give yourself permission to grieve the old you…

...while celebrating the new one.

-Dr. Denise THINKS 🧠

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